Love as a State, Not a Reaction
Armchair Conversations with Deb Foggio
Intuitive Leadership Reflections
Divine Love is a Felt Experience
Last week, we talked about inner authority — not as something we create, but something we learn to trust. We explored how guidance doesn’t come from force or urgency, but from Divine Inspiration — that quiet, steady knowing that arises before we act.
This week, we take the next step.
Because once we know where our guidance comes from, another question naturally follows:
How do we act from that place — especially when emotions are stirred, pressure is high, or the world feels reactive?
That’s where love comes in.
But not love as it’s often described.
Not sentimental.
Not passive.
Not something we perform to keep the peace.
I’m talking about Divine Love as a state — an inner condition that regulates how we respond, choose, speak, and move.
Love as a State
Divine Love isn’t an emotion that comes and goes depending on circumstances.
It’s a state of being — one that can be accessed even when feelings are mixed, strong, or unsettled.
When we’re rooted in this state, love doesn’t soften us into inaction.
It steadies us into clarity.
Love, at this level, allows us to:
pause instead of react
speak truth without aggression
set boundaries without guilt
stay connected without losing ourselves
It’s not about being agreeable.
It’s about being coherent.
And coherence matters — especially now.
Divine Love and Relationships
With Valentine’s Day approaching, it’s natural for relationships to come into focus.
Divine Love doesn’t ask us to ignore disappointment, conflict, or unmet needs.
It doesn’t ask us to pretend everything is fine.
Instead, it creates the inner conditions where honesty can exist without harm, and connection can deepen without self-abandonment.
When love is present as a state:
we listen more fully
we defend less quickly
we respond rather than react
Whether in intimate partnerships, family relationships, friendships, or long-standing tensions, Divine Love allows us to meet one another more truthfully — without collapsing or hardening.
That’s real love in practice.
How Divine Love Is Felt
Just like Divine Inspiration, Divine Love is experienced through feeling.
It has a particular quality to it.
There is steadiness.
An inner openness without collapse.
A warmth that doesn’t override discernment.
When love is present as a state, you may notice:
your breath slows
your body feels less defended
your thoughts become clearer, not louder
You’re not trying to convince anyone.
You’re not bracing for impact.
You’re simply here.
Without Divine Love regulating our actions, inner authority can harden into control.
With it, authority remains clean, grounded, supportive and connected.
Reaction vs. Regulation
Reaction is fast.
It’s often fueled by fear, frustration, or the need to regain control.
Divine Love regulates.
It doesn’t eliminate emotion — it holds it.
It doesn’t deny intensity — it contains it.
This is where many people get confused.
They think acting from love means suppressing how they feel.
It doesn’t.
It means allowing emotion to move without letting it drive.
When love is present as a state, emotion becomes information — not instruction.
And that changes everything.
A Small Practice for This Week
Once this week, notice a moment when emotion is rising — especially in a relationship.
Before responding, pause and ask yourself quietly:
“Can I stay present with this feeling without letting it decide for me?”
Then ask:
“What response would reflect love as a state?”
Not what avoids discomfort.
Not what keeps the peace at all costs.
But what feels true, steady, and clean.
Looking Ahead
Next week, we’ll explore coherence — what happens when inner knowing, emotional state, and outward action align.
Because when these three speak the same language, action gains real power.
And life begins to move differently.
🌿 A Gentle Invitation
If you’re noticing how emotions influence your choices — especially in relationships — and would value support in responding with more steadiness and clarity, a LifePath Reading can help illuminate what’s unfolding beneath the surface.
It’s a space to explore how inspiration, emotion, and action are interacting in your life right now — so your next steps can come from alignment rather than reaction.
If it feels supportive, the invitation is here.
🌿 A Deeper Healing Space:
Soul Essence Evolving Systemic Constellations
There are places within us that learned to adapt a long time ago.
Patterns we didn’t choose consciously.
Responses that formed before we had language for them.
Ways of protecting ourselves that once made sense — but now quietly shape our lives, relationships, and choices.
Much of what we struggle with isn’t happening on the surface.
It lives beneath awareness, held in the body, the nervous system, and the deeper layers of the psyche.
Soul Essence Evolving — Systemic Constellations offers a space where these unconscious patterns can finally be seen — not analyzed, not judged — but gently revealed.
Long-standing wounding that has resisted change through insight alone is given room to surface safely. What has been hidden can be acknowledged. What has been carrying weight for years can begin to release.
This is not about reliving the past.
It’s about allowing what has been held quietly for too long to find resolution.
When unconscious patterns are brought into awareness, something softens.
Choice returns.
Movement becomes possible again.
When: February 13, 2026
Time: 7:00–10:00 PM
Pre-registration required
If you sense that something old has been ready to shift — something you’ve worked on, circled around, or carried for years — this evening offers a grounded, compassionate container for that healing to begin.
Closing Mantra
Love is my state.
I trust the wisdom guiding my next step.
With care and trust in your inner guidance,
Deb Foggio
I let my soul lead; my system follows.